How to Affect Change Through Exemplifying

How to Affect Change Through Exemplifying

From episode #104 – How to Remain Your Authentic Self When Challenged By Influences & Pressure


And so in that instance, going back to your example around waste, the person who exemplifies it is being helpful because they are making a change, even though it’s a small impact, but that vibration, if you hold it long enough, is going to extend and rub off on the people around you, as you’re the example.

But I think if you, like you said, if you try to be right and helpful, people are gonna feel that energy and see that you’re not just exemplifying it. It can almost come off as like you’re doing it to get some sort of benefit or to be seen as higher than thou, or something. The energy doesn’t lie.


Some type of recognition. And the example is not looking for the recognition. They’re just looking to teach something different.

So if you see that like somewhere is not recycling and on your lunch break you decide to take five minutes to just go sort out some recycling. And somebody says, what are you doing? And you say, I’m just helping out a little bit because this lack of recycling bothers me and I am earth conscious. But I’m not going to go to fight management about this. Every day, I’ll just take a small bag with me and recycle it.

And then, if a certain percentage of all the employees did that, there would be a recycling thing happening and management didn’t even have to get involved. And if they saw that, that could give them the impetus to want to put something in place because it’s already in motion here and then these people are doing it on their own.

And that’s the more feminine way to affect change. And there’s still so many people that are stuck in the masculine way to beat, to overcome, to convince. And the example is really more in the feminine way and, it’s not passive, it’s active. Some people say, well, that’s just being passive aggressive. No, it’s being passively useful and productive.

And if you do it for long enough, it will stimulate interest. It will stimulate questions. You give very conscious and calm answers. That, hey I’m not here to make a fuss. I’m just here to exemplify. And then one other person goes, hey, I’ll do that with you. And then two or three other people, a week later, go, no, I’m going help out. I’m going to bring a bag and take a bag home with me every day. That’s affecting change and that gets conversation going. And there’s no right or wrong. Anybody that doesn’t want to do it, I’m not expecting you to do it. So this is more about self-fulfilling and feeling like you’re doing what you’re here to do. Because if you sitting there and you’re eating lunch and you just can’t get over that they don’t recycle, then it’s going to be much more use of your energy just to go spend five minutes, to do some recycling and take it home and utilize that energy rather than just pouting about it and stimulating that energy anyway.

So this is where action just has much better results than concept. And that’s what we’re really trying to get people to is, gradual changes over long periods of time equals lasting results. Not complaining and pointing out the things that are wrong, but actually having a solution. And then putting that into action, on no matter what level it is. We are talking about self-development in the external material world.

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